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Hello, I’m Michelle
I’m the founder of the Secret O.W.L. Society, where I create resources for women who want to return to their cyclical nature and make the journey just as beautiful as the destination. I believe everything gets brighter and better when women start honoring their own well-being. If this feels like your kind of place, then be sure to join the newsletter below.
How Tender Timer Works
Most timers teach you to squeeze more out of yourself. This one teaches you to pour back into yourself. Tender Timer pairs every stretch of focused work with a small, real act of self-care. Work, then tend.
The Ritual
- Write your focus. One line at the top, so your brain can stop holding it.
- Pick your minutes and press play. Work on just that one thing while the timer counts down.
- When the sound chimes, take your break. Choose a card from your deck — face yoga, a 5 minute stretch, a series of deep breaths — or let surprise me choose for you.
- Tap Finished. The card slips away, and tomorrow morning your whole deck comes back fresh.
Why This Actually Works
Your attention isn’t a machine — it’s a rhythm. Research on how we focus shows that concentration naturally rises and fades in cycles, and that performance drops the longer we push without pause. Short, regular breaks are how attention recovers.
But the kind of break matters too. Scrolling keeps your nervous system revved in the same keyed-up state as work. Gentle movement, slow breathing, and small acts of self care do the opposite — they signal safety to your body, easing the stress response so you return to the work steadier, clearer, and more creative than you left it.
The Deeper Why
Here’s the Secret O.W.L. Society heart of it: self-care isn’t the reward you earn by finishing the work — it’s the foundation the work stands on.
Most of us have spent years expanding our capacity to produce — and almost none expanding our capacity to receive. If you can’t receive care, you can’t fully receive the good things your work creates, either: the rest, the money, the ease, the very life you’re working to create. Every five-minute break here is practice at receiving. That’s why it counts just as much as the task.
Notice, after a week, how differently you work. That noticing is the whole paradigm shift.
Let’s Keep Your Deck Safe
Your saved videos, your library, and your settings live only in this browser, on this computer — and nowhere else. If you ever clear your browser history or cache, switch browsers, or move to a new device, they’d disappear. A backup is a little file that keeps everything safe, so you never lose the deck you’ve built. Three tiny steps:
Download a backup
Save a copy of your deck to your computer. This pops a little file into your downloads.
Keep it somewhere safe
Tuck the file into a folder or cloud drive you trust — somewhere you’ll find it again.
Restore it anytime
New browser or device? Load your backup and your deck comes right back.
Good to know: restoring is safe — it adds any videos from your backup that aren’t already in your deck, and never deletes or overwrites what’s there. So you can restore anytime without losing a thing. It’s the quickest way to bring your whole deck back after clearing your browser or moving to a new device.
Save the App
Add Tender Timer to your home screen and it opens like a little app, full-screen — a gentle daily ritual, always one tap away.
On iPhone / iPad
- Open the link in Safari.
- Tap the Share button (the square with an up-arrow).
- Scroll down and tap Add to Home Screen, then Add.
On Android
- Open the link in Chrome.
- Tap the ⋮ menu (top-right).
- Tap Add to Home screen, then confirm.
On computer
- Open the link in Chrome or Edge.
- Click the install icon in the address bar (a little monitor with a down-arrow), or open the ⋮ menu.
- Choose Install — it opens in its own window like an app.
About Tender Timer
Made with love by Michelle for The Secret O.W.L. Society — a home for anti-hustle, desire-led, cyclical living.
Love it? Send it to a friend who could use a gentler workday.
Credits
Fonts: Averia Serif Libre, Bricolage Grotesque, and Homemade Apple, served with love via Google Fonts. Video playback and thumbnails come from YouTube. The timer sounds are hand-mixed in your browser with the Web Audio API.
This product and its source code may not be redistributed, resold, replicated, or repurposed.
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